Adommys Ensure Tommy Joe Ratliff Fired As Guitarist For Adam Lambert.

You guys all know that Adam would never fire Tommy because of Sauli… I mean, look at the band… After the Glam Nation Tour Adam created a whole new band..everyone had to go…. Everyone but not Tommy. He was the only one who stayed. And I don’t think that will change. And guys…. Sauli is fine with Tommy. They understand very well. Like friends! Tommy isn’t a danger for Sauli! So, if Sauli can accept Tommy you should do it ,too!

I took my time and read through all the comments. I respect everyone’s views-I agree with some-but question others. With All Due Respect-This is my point of view! First off, I adore Adam-to me he is the BEST vocalist out there and I feel he will be iconic like MJ and Elvis-he has all the qualities to be that and more. I respect his relationship with Sauli, and I admire his brother-friendship with TJ. Remember Adam and TJ were inseparable for up to Adams 29th birthday! They were seen, photographed, and blogged about. They shared costuming on Halloween-and vacation together. They truly are best friends.
 Adam and TJ have addressed the Adommy issue. For those saying TJ, is not doing enough-well he had fans post a pic of himself kissing Liz. Did anyone ever think that Adam and TJ have personally discussed this many times, and maybe Adam told him to just let it be! The point is NO ONE REALLY KNOWS so why are we arguing about it and pointing the blame to only TJ!  For those saying that TJ DM them & he was flirting? I respect your post-and for privacy reasons understand why you would not share that post.  TJ DM me and he was not flirting at all-he was very sweet and thanked me for a suggestion I had re: something musical. I don’t send him gifts or money or but I do think he is Adam’s biggest cheerleader who I see everyday retweets everything related to Adam’s  posts on Twitter within a short time of Adam tweeting it-these are 99% related to his performances/his career/his interviews/etc. I have to say with Sauli being Adams boyfriend, I expected a little more from him in that department. I would love to see Sauli tweet Adams upcoming CD and other things. If that was me, I would be doing it-unless Adam asked him not too-who knows. But for those so quick to want to fire TJ-for what did he do SO bad to you? He’s not our friend-both Adam and TJ have said they are close like brothers-that they can talk about anything and share anything and never judge one another. That is a trusting relationship. We should all be SO fortunate to have a TRUE FRIEND like that in our lives! I can guarantee you when TJ tweeted on his birthday “THANK YOU” in BIG drawn out letters-Adam probably had asked him to be lead guitarist! And please don’t jump on me for saying that-like I said before. Maybe there is a GOOD reason TJ is not continuing to say something-both Adam and he may have good reason!

I also don’t think TJ is using Adam-how many times does TJ graciously say how lucky he is-how Adam has changed his life.  TJ has consistently posted his gratitude and thanks to Adam online and in interviews. I read all his tweets, seen his inteviews and read both Tumbler accounts-he reveals alot if you read what he is saying to you. There is adoration there-face it-that is the truth. It was different with Monte. Monte was the one who Adam looked up too-who had connections-he felt important as a leader to Adam. When Adam’s rise to fame had taken off so fast-it was Adam who was exposed to amazing writers and A-line producers who wanted to work with him so much. Monte no longer became the one Adam really needed. Also Adam and TJ hung out more like friends-Monte and Adam were friends but it was TJ at Adams side all the time til Adam started dating Sauli. 

The sad part is that not that long ago-the Adam fandom was full of love. We all flocked to Youtube to first watch FEVER-to see what Adam/TJ interaction there was and than to the INTROs again to see the same thing. Im guilty of it too! However, I believe Adam is in a relationship with Sauli-Ive read Adommy fanfics and to me-that is all they are-good written fantasy. I don’t translate those stories to real life.  I have attended many of Adams concerts, etc. and although I realize that the Adam/TJ craze has gone too far, the one thing that people forget is-Adam is the one who started this Adommy fantasy! I understand why he did it, but right from the beginning, both He and TJ were French kissing each other equally. And there was a change during the tour-I have seen almost every video of every song in every country. It was evident to me and to alot of people I know -people who also believe that Adam is with Sauli.  But there WAS a change! The kisses got longer-were more passionate especially when they went overseas. There were making out sessions in almost every country outside of the US that looked pretty real to me. I understand the stage gay and all but TJ is not an actor. The guy wears his emotions on his sleeve. Also with the GlamNation tour, being Adams first tour and TJ first professional job,  Adam and the rest of the band were concentrating on putting on a great concert & I really don’t think that Adam or TJ really did not expect their every move being zoomed in and slowed down, on every song in every country, so that every detail of their actions is on display for the world to see and analyze.  How many views did that one video have-like over 100,000 that had the most sexy and passionate kisses/sexy stage moves in it? Yes, that video-people were drooling over the sex-read the posts. This is way before Sauli came. I have seen a ton of videos-I have seen true affection. There are alot of things you can’t fake with eyes and body language. They are musicians, not robots. I have alot of friends who believe they had a tour romance and we all believe and know Adam is dating and loves Sauli. But early on in 2010-Adam was overseas with his bandmates. He talked about dating  someone who was intelligent, very creative-he said he looks like a Xmas Elf. Busted-we all know he was talking about Tommy. There are ONLY 2 people who know what went down before and on Tour-and they are noone else BUT Adam and Tommy! And we will NEVER know the real truth. Straight or not-they both are flirts with each other without even trying. Ive never seen such normal chemistry in my life. I just think alot of this has caused rational and irrational confusion!

There is a video after the Toyko 2 show where Adam is singing Music Again-he is playing with TJ’s head back and forth singing ”Put your little tongue in mine-look into my eyes baby eyes” and than Adam walks to center stage turns and faces TJ and clearly says “I Love You Tommy” and from those attending the concert-reported back TJ mouthed the same thing back when he was standing there for about 15 seconds. Right after that-Adam goes off dancing to the side and sings “we finally made it work”! Listen-you will hear it. I think alot of people were confused because in interviews right before a show like that-Adam would say TJ and him were just best friends. But than he turns around and says things like that in Japan, and again on TJ birthday show where he made out with him 3 times. And this is not just a peck of a kiss-we are talking full on making out-French kissing-both of them together. You can see a progression definitely overseas which also seemed to occur after Japan. TJ has said he’s bicurious-hell there is a pic of him floating out there with his arm around Adam and Adams arm around him when they were practicing. It was a pic Im sure everyone has seen-the full picture-shows you they were dressed down. They were not in concert. I have seen fan videos where ninjas were hiding behind bushes who caught a glimpse of Adam pecking TJ and TJ touching Adams bare skin at his waist level. They dont know these pics are even been taken. So, I do understand why there are Adommy believers out there-I don’t like the hate towards Sauli, but there is proof out there that does validate some of their points. And Im not on their side or anyones side-I m just stating facts I have seen documented. I think alot of people don’t understand why Sauli is not really working up til his recent modeling job this month. I did read Sauli back in Big Brother Days wants to be a stylist-so I hope he finds himself a career he loves too. He’s younger than Adam, and being in Finland, he obviously did not have the opportunities like he does in LA. But again, playing Devils advocate, there are alot of fans-not just Adommy fans-even just Adam fans who feel Sauli is living free off of Adams hard work.  Why? Because Adam said in interviews that he wants a partner who is creative, has a career of their own they are passionate about, and who is intelligent. Sauli is a very sunny personality-and aside from his blogs and his small Tukta job, I do want to see him blossom on his own-independent of Adam. I believe he will in time I will also respect him more for that too, and I believe that he will do it! I also think he takes care of “home” and that is something Adam has longed for too. To come home to a emotionally stable relationship-he says he now has that.

So I think there is just alot of confusion that has fueled peoples fantasties. People say ” Adam is honest and he tells the truth”-I do believe it too, but Adam has made mistakes. He’s not perfect-he’s close but Adam himself has purposely said things-even when first seen with Sauli-that just gave people different impression and for those who believed in Adommy more magic to work with. I clearly remember Adam and Sauli’s pic being taken places, & Adam tweets, that people are over analzying his private life-that the person he is photographed with-is not what people think. He said he wants his private life private. Well, Adam and Sauli’s life is not that private. Private to me means you don’t see that person photographed every day for months on end with their partner. It does not even happen to the most famous people! Maybe its a PR move for Adam to stay in front of the camera with his new PR managment-I GET that too. We all know how PR works. But in all honesty, I never even thought I would see the hundred of pics floating around of Adam and Sauli when Adam tweeted several times-his private life is private and people don’t know his private life. I am just putting this out there not to support people who are fantasizing but because these are the types of things that have been taken to heart. To me there is confusion and contradiction to what Adam has said/tweeted and than he does the opposite. Im just playing Devils advocate! Adam always said he would “lie to protect someone he loves” That can be taken in different context again. Maybe Adam said those statements to keep Sauli initially out of the paps faces-so he had time to allow his relationship to grow more serious before having the papazzari ruin it!

And the haters are on both sides. I have been a Glambert from Day 1-I have seen and heard it all too. But those who hate the Adommy fans are also constantly reading their feeds and they are just as guilty as posting hate too. This is not just one-sided. I blocked people on Twitter who were starting to criticize me cause I liked and posted about Tommy. Its America-I have a right to my opinion. There are too many people on Twitter playing fandom police. If everyone just stepped backed a bit-both sides-maybe it would stop some of the hating. But one side is fueling the other-that is the truth. I have read many posts of [peeps I don’t even follow on both sides”-just to get a glimpse of their views.

Well I could say alot more, but I won’t. I love Adam. I adore TJ. I believe Sauli is good for Adam-Adam is very happy. I believe TJ is good for Adam-he’s his confident and best friend. Adam is not going to fire TJ. And in reality-there have been fan wars back to Elvis days, and it will continue on in the future. You can’t threaten people to change their minds. People have the right to believe what they want. I do agree that sending hate to Adam, TJ, Sauli, his band, and others is wrong-on both sides. I am still a fan-cause in the end I am here for Adam. I respect his choices, and he’s human, he will make mistakes! But everyone needs to starting accepting the fact that Adam also values and loves his band-his NEW band! And for those who keep underrating TJ talent-why don’t you give the guy a breathing chance? If you read what he writes and his tumbler now-he’s very open and honest. He found Ashely who Adam fell in love with right away. I think TJ has alot of talent-Ive seen videos of him playing pretty amazing. He tells you he’s not a shredder like Monte-its not his style. He has a different style-that does not mean he’s a lousy guitar player-he is different. Adam stated that Tommy respects his musical vision, maybe we should ALL take a moment to RESPECT that-not all this crap of fire Tommy. But I dated a musician for a long time who was self taught and who played by ear-and he was incredible-he graduated from Julliard. TJ is self taught on guitar since age 12. I play piano by note-I would KILL to play by ear. This is a different album-a different vibe-and from what I have seen on the overseas video-TJ sounds just fine. To you he may be replaceable-yes there are extremely talented guitar players-like Monte-where did that end up? Adam believes in giving people a chance like he had been given and is grateful for everyday. So I hope those who doubt TJ-can at least give him that! Thank you for allowing me to express my opinon.

Must also add – what do the Adommy believers think their belief means and what the repurcussions would be? 
 It would mean Adam is totally exploiting, abusing and neglecting his “real” boyfriend; it would mean Adam is lying to most of the world, showing disrespect to his relationship with fans; it would be evidence he agrees with a closeted lifestyle for gay relationships; Adam would lose credibility (especially while he’s promoting his album as part of him being very open and transparent and talking about his relationship with Sauli in interviews); family and friends would feel betrayed, or if they were “in on it” they are all willing to lie elaborately and would also lose credibility; most of his fanbase would become disillusioned and feel betrayed; he would lose credibility as a rolemodel and spokesperson for LGBT awareness; the media would have a field-day; other celebrities like Ellen either in on it and part of the conspiracy or would also feel lied to; and so on.

I wonder if part of the reason they cling to the belief is it means they are part of a special, select group who are priveleged to secret knowledge and their faith as true fans will be rewarded when the day comes that Adommy is revealed to the world?  Yes, very cult-like!

The same crays who threaten Sauli and Liz send Tommy gifts and money. Tommy accepts the gifts and thanks for them. Is that respectable? 
Tommy knows who those craziest crays are. He should at least block them. Why doesn’t he do that? Isn’t the answer quite obvious? 

And don´t you adommy cray crays see that this has nothing to do with Tommy but YOU, just YOU -  for the most part your delusional tweets and brilliant conspiracy theories of Sauli being just a PR stunt are the best entertainment I´ve personally seen for a long time.
But everything has a limit. Hate mails are to be taken seriously (although Sauli now said he did not care). Adults should see the diffenrence between fact and fiction and know how to behave. If you enjoy writing and reading fan fics about Tommy and Adam that is fine, do that, but please, do not mix it with the reality. Normally five year olds start to see difference between those two.
And next time you start to explain how people hate Tommy or are jealous — remember, they do not! there is absolutely no hate towards Tommy (why would there be?), there´s no jealousy, there´s no uncertainty about Adam´s and Sauli´s relationship – you have made this all up only to support your theories. Use your own brains and think a little, why would a grown man like Steve Gray write like this? Not everyone can be hired by Adam´s PR department.

I have nothing against Tommy but I have a LOT against his delusional fans who bide their time by posting hate on Adam’s boyfriend’s blog. At the end of the day crazy Adommy fans, who means more? Adam’s guitar player in his backing band or the love of his life? It’s clear from everything that both Adam and Sauli have said that they’re both in this for the long haul and if the crazy Tommy fans can’t accept this maybe Adam SHOULD fire him so they can go stan him without being bothered by Adam’s REAL love life. Tommy is not irreplaceable people but Sauli is. Sorry bout it.

The original post that some Adommy whacko posted made me so sad that Sauli has to see bullshit like that, it was disturbingly delusional and downright mean. And I would bet money Adam has seen it too at this point, I wonder how he feels about the fact that Tommy’s fans are so awful to the guy he loves? But I’m glad Sauli instructed his mods to let it thru and let us know he is not letting crap like that get to him. He probably gets a shit ton of it every day, sadly.

Here is what this nutjob commented on a post where Sauli wished his boyfriend Adam that he loves a Happy Birthday:

“So fake. I hope you get what you want from using Adam and his famous name. I guess you are looking for your fame back in Finland because it’s obvious you’re not trying to make a name for yourself here in America. So it’s obvious to me and people I know that you’re simply using Adam to get famous back in Finland. Well I say I hope it works so Adam gets you out of his hair. You are NOT his love, this much is PLAIN TO SEE TO THOSE WHO ARE OBSERVANT. There are many people like me who are seeing through this fake facade. Why didn’t you go with Adam your one true love to Austria? It’s not like you have any real job or commitment back in LA. I would assume it’s visa issues. Whatever. I will be glad when Adam can finally dump you back in Finland where you belong. I have no real ill will to you, I just know this whole relationship is completely fake. And I am not the only one. Good luck to you.

29.1.2012
Kayl”

I have been thinking that the only way to stop the Sauli hate is to fire Tommy. Then the so-called Adam fans can go follow Tommy and leave Adam and Sauli alone. It must be SO hard on Adam to see all those tweets all day long.